Benjamin Mitchell @benjaminm

Helping technical leaders struggling with imposter syndrome, burnout and stress to thrive in work and life! blog.benjaminm.net London, UK Joined April 2007

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3 years ago

@houlihan_rick I'm really sorry to hear about the loss of your son Rick

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3 years ago

Get your anxiety-inducing thoughts out of your head by putting them down on paper. Powerful advice from @tferriss with @ColinandSamir

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3 years ago

This is a great example of the power of "feel the fear and do it anyway". Having the courage to face our fears shows anxiety is "the monster that has no teeth", as @DavidDBurnsMD says. #teamcbt

Confession: Years ago, my life was dominated by fear. I was so scared of failure that I was afraid to speak up. I was afraid to try things that might not work. “I feel like a fraud”. “What if my boss or coworkers realize I’m not very good?” “What if I say something dumb in

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3 years ago

@housecor That's a great example of the power of "feel(ing) the fear and do(ing) it anyway". I admire the way you courageously faced your fears @housecor!

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3 years ago

Pagodas are Japanese 5-layer wooden buildings first built 1400 years ago Despite regular major earthquakes, only 2 have ever collapsed The To-Jo temple survived in '95. Many modern buildings were flattened. What does this teach us about resilience?

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3 years ago

3\ When reversing is expensive, accept and accommodate Compared to code, knitting is frustratingly linear. Reversing errors is time-consuming. Accepting the situation and accommodating help. (This jumper, meant for me, went to my 10 yo)

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3 years ago

2\ Learning can feel weird as you go Starting anything new can be awkward and difficult. When things are halfway done, it can feel weird. But continuing to focus on finishing makes a huge difference

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3 years ago

A lot of stress and pain at work comes from tying our self-worth to our accomplishments. But does doing well at work mean you are a good person? Does doing badly at work mean you are a bad person?

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I used to set a goal of doing *more* of a new habit each day But ❌ I felt worse when I didn’t ❌ Feeling worse meant I stopped trying it each day Now I aim to do something *less* than the day before ✅ If I stop after starting, I've won 🏆 ✅ I keep starting each day 💪

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3 years ago

That's a wrap! If you enjoyed this thread: 1. Follow me @benjaminm for more of these 2. Got questions about positively reframing? My DMs are open 3. RT the tweet below to share this thread with your audience

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3 years ago

In 2019, I was eating 2 reduced-price buns every day after work to manage stress. It was an addictive habit. I felt guilty and embarrassed. It was impacting my health. Here's the key insight I learnt about changing habits when your internal critic is screaming at you 🧵

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3 years ago

If you're trying to change a habit you're self-critical about, reframe it like this: 1 Write your thoughts and feelings down. Ask: 2 What does this thought or feeling show about me that is positive or awesome? 3 How does this thought or feeling reflect my core values? #teamcbt