Aspire @calmanalyst_

وَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ ۖ وَعَسَىٰ أَن تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُون.

Ibrahim Kazeem, MBA. @peng_writer

17 hours ago

How does it feel as a man to be the last unmarried person in your friendship group?

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I will respond only to whatever post I see. If you block me, I dont use burner account, I cant see your tweet, so I cant even see your sub. And if anyone call my attention to it, I will ignore. Whatever you can not take, don't dish it out. I do not succumb to emotional blackmail

Nobody can fully knows a righteous person because we don't have علم الغيب and No if things go bad in marriage if you have financial security you will be able to find yourself back They are hundreds of women in terrible marriage because they don't have financial security to leave

Alapo @alapo_

a day ago

A person who outwardly portrays righteousness while harbouring inner differences is a hypocrite, not a righteous person. A truly righteous individual won’t be a good person on the outside and a devil within their own home because they fear Allah. This doesn’t mean people don’t

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There is nothing inherently wrong with this. He is asking, not mandating. There is a difference. To me, the “why not marry someone already wearing the niqab?” argument becomes relevant where a man insists that a woman must start wearing it after marriage regardless of her own views but if he is upfront about what he wants and she is free to accept or decline, then that is just part of the compatibility conversation. People ask about all sorts of things before marriage and decide whether to proceed or not based on the answers they receive.

Abu GLORY tẹ'wo tẹ'wo 1(Crowns Technologies💡) @Crowns0071

2 days ago

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@realHazeezat Aameen

Not comprehensive enough, Ustadh. Any journey you embark on and you KNOW certainly how many days you will stay, you cannot continue shortening prayers after the fourth day. There are other opinions but weak. This is view of the majority of scholars and the most correct opinion.

𝑰𝒅𝒓𝒊𝒔 𝑨. 𝑶𝒏𝒊 PhD @IdrisAOni1

a day ago

@BabalegbaLoriKW @Engr_Ashile @MaryamAbiola11 It can go as far as 19 days. However, stopping at 3 days is most preferred.

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What I disagreed with that day was your tone, saying "he's not ready for marriage"

Shogunle Hazeezat Nosadiana @realHazeezat

a day ago

Most Muslim men and some of you unserious Muslim women almost wounded me on that very day. Shey you Muslim women can see what they’re saying now? They don’t want you to work, yet want you to support the home financially, make it make sense? I remember some people tagging me as

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You people saying he should approach someone using the niqaab already are not real sha.

Abu GLORY tẹ'wo tẹ'wo 1(Crowns Technologies💡) @Crowns0071

2 days ago

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This is off the recent MT discussion. I subscribe to the two arguments of; 1. Stop preparing for marriage like it's a war zone – Still dot your I's and cross your T's. 2. Wealth acquisition is HIGHLY encouraged (before/in marriage) – just make sure it's Sharia-compliant. KJBSJ!

✨Mubârok X 'Ngozi' 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸✨ @Hollaiturn

a day ago

How I wish we could ALWAYS learn from discussions on the TL instead of allowing our premeditated bias control us. Even when it's coming from a place you've often disagreed with, choose to learn (free of bias) at every occasion. Our current position might not be our final one.

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How I wish we could ALWAYS learn from discussions on the TL instead of allowing our premeditated bias control us. Even when it's coming from a place you've often disagreed with, choose to learn (free of bias) at every occasion. Our current position might not be our final one.

Show me. I've seen him say "it's her choice" after all. If it's cos of him laughing in some comments, it's fairs. I'd like to believe it's cos she used "I can never". Low-key, I find the "never" funny as it's a word of total rejection. And I don't believe I am seeing it as a sign of me being more righteous than her. The finality is just amusing. What do you mean it has no basis in picking a spouse. I know women who explicitly say they want a husband who has memorized certain portions of Quran. Memorization and niqab are both righteous actions and both function as a measurement of someone's priorities. What I actually dislike is the "why didn't he go for so and so" angle. It's unrealistic and it also limits the pool unnecessarily. Niqab wearers are already a small percentage of women. If you then add every other criteria a man is looking for on top of that, you're asking him to find a subset inside a subset. No woman is born wearing the niqab, so a man asking about her openness to it is not asking about something fixed or unchangeable. He asked the question. She answered that she could never. That's a clear, direct answer to a question that is relevant to how he wants to build his household. That's not him being unfair or overly righteous, that's just him getting information before investing further. If she had answered the exact same way about furthering her Master's, nobody will say his question had no basis. Most people will think it's a weird criteria (I'll think so anyway).

Softness 💕💕 @diaryofkeji

a day ago

@ashita_valdez Lol, he did. Did you see his replies to comments? Yes, it has no basis in picking a spouse. There are several niqab wearing women why did he not approach them? That thread is meant to ridicule people and that's what he did to her

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I know of a man who got it from his wife. She was aware of her condition before marriage but hid it from him because she feared he would leave her.

Abdulsalam M. Nuhu @salamnuhu

2 days ago

Once you see a married woman with HIV, chances are she got it from her husband. Utterly unfair. The husband sure didn't get it from sharing sharps. To her, she's struck with a two edged sword; betral and a lifetime of affliction. Both sides striking at the same time. The pain!

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Lmao

•🫧 @Mimbad_

a day ago

You and the people in your comment no real, continue gaslighting yourself thinking you’re better. The question you asked her has no basis whatsoever in choosing a spouse, and btw, is her Mahram present in that conversation?

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We talk as though we're unaware of some women's realities in their marriages. Whether from someone close to us or from stories we've heard from afar, many of us know women whose husbands withhold provision simply because they are the sole providers. We've heard heartbreaking...

Assalaamulaikum warahmatullaahi wabarakaatuh Brother Mayowa is very right, baaraka Allaahu feehi. However, what I'd like to point out is that while I advocate for women to have a spurce of income, I do not advocate that their jobs should be their source of income for various reasons: 1. We agree or not, women generally were not made to go out and work, and would generally prefer not to 2. Saying women should work for an independent source of income is more of an injustice to her. Read on 3. In general, women are saddled with the primary responsibility of taking care of the home, sometimes men help, but we still know whose primary responsibility it is as per our culture. Adding the brunt of going out to work to earn an income is totally unjust to her. 4. Women become pregnant, having to carry kilograms of foetus in their abdomen for months. During these times, they have to eat a lot, urinate very very frequently, they'll nauseate a lot, they'll have morning sickness, their hips would ache, will have to wake up at night whenever they have to turn in bed, thus will not have good enough sleep. Now imagining going through a bad night and having to use the bathroom every hour, or 2, have a container to spit on, while at work all just to earn an income. 5. After delivery, for the first w years of the child's life, they're tied to their mothers. Having to excuse yourself every 2 hours for the first 6 months at least to breastfeed while at work is burdening With all of these remember, it's still their primary responsibility of taking care of the home or supervise whoever would be doing it. She'll also go through menstrual pains and cramps. So imagine having to go change pads frequently while at work and having to show up every working day whether you feel like or not, is not justice to her. On top of that, she's expected to satisfy her husband's desires too, and with all these, she'll be tired everyday of her life. Whether we see it now or not, if her primary goal of working is to earn income, she'll soon see it as a burden, throw frustrations and will start advocating to leave the workforce as we see today in the West. Yes, she has to have her income source, I 100% am in support, but how can she achieve this? Contracts. If her goal of working is income, being a wife and mother is already enough work to earn her an income. In Islam, women can draft contracts during marriage. She can put in her contract that her husband will pay her a certain percentage of his salary monthly and it should be enforceable by the Nigerian Courts of Law. This should be an eye opener for all walliyy's out there, to secure their daughters' future in this day and age by drafting contracts. Additionally, if she wants to work as a hobby, a career she's pursuing, she's all free to, in as far as she's permitted by her husband (if he's responsible that is). This is my humble submission, baaraka Allaahu feekum

Mayowa Sheikhspeare @CoveredInWords

2 days ago

I am just gonna be blunt about it: NO woman should be thinking of getting married without an income source. Anyone is free to disagree, though.

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But at least having money will give Her choices, She can leave and build a different part/life for Herself. I am a living witness to that fact. Yes we can be treated badly but at least hunger and deprivation can be managed and Insha Allah we can press the restart button because there's an ongoing means of sustenance. Muslim woman or not, if you don't have a job, trade or source of income and you are unfortunate enough to end up with an abuser of a husband or family, your suffering will be Quadruple. Learn or Perish

Alapo @alapo_

2 days ago

Yes we see it, and I am not pretending. And the truth is making money doesn’t solve the problem. That a woman has money doesn’t automatically mean an evil man won’t treat her badly. We have to go back to the root, which is giving our children proper Tarbiyah.

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Hijab is a journey We are all striving But you have been on the same stage for years Why did the journey stopped Why did journey not move from scarf to hijab to jilbab Why are you still in same level and not striving to move forward May Allah make it easy for us

Alapo @alapo_

2 days ago

“The idea that hijab is a journey, is often used to delay obedience”.

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I don't think it should be a prerequisite but it should be something that must happen in or before marriage this your example is just one good out of several bads No woman should be independent on another human being It's a very dangerous situation that has ruined many people.

Abu Aa’ish wa Anas @_Abou_bakr

2 days ago

No doubt that it is a fantastic thing for women to have a skill, a trade or something to earn her money, however, that should never be termed a prerequisite for marriage. I specifically know of a woman in her 60s who has never done any work in her entire

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This is how he does. He starts with “As a Muslim” and goes on to push his Munafiq-agenda. One of the earliest people who acted the way you act was Abdullah ibn Ubayy ibn Salul. Go and read how he ended up his life. The truth will always stand against the rage bait misconception you are peddling. And I have come to believe you like the attention you are getting. Notice how you did not even dare to cite a single specific country or example in your post. You left it completely vague because looking closely at real data would instantly destroy your narrative. If you are rational, a single Google Search would have helped you. Let me do the honest analysis you were too afraid to touch. In Egypt, Christians make up about 10% of the population, numbering over 10 million people, and the government has formally legalized more than 2,100 churches and church buildings in recent years. In Lebanon, Christians make up around 37% to 40% of the population and hold the highest political offices, including the presidency, by constitutional law. In Jordan, Christians have a guaranteed quota of 9 seats in the national parliament to ensure their political voice. They own massive cathedrals, practice openly, and run their own autonomous religious courts because classical Islamic law explicitly guarantees their protection, financial autonomy, and freedom to worship. Even in the modern Gulf states, where the populations are heavily expatriate, churches are built and protected by law. The UAE is home to over 1 million Christians who make up roughly 12.6% of the population, worshiping freely across approximately 40 churches and 700 ministries. Qatar similarly hosts a massive Christian population of about 13% with multiple registered denominations operating freely out of dedicated church complexes. Then we have Saudi Arabia where there are no Churches. Why? The lack of churches there is not an arbitrary double standard or a sign of intolerance; it is a specific legislative exception grounded in the direct command of the Prophet (peace be upon him). I have said this countless times. The Peninsula is the sacred sanctuary and the foundational core of Islam. Every civilization on earth maintains a sovereign sacred space with unique rules. The Vatican does not host mosques, and you cannot build a foreign military base on the lawns of Washington DC. The restriction in the Hejaz is about geographic sanctity, and not a denial of human rights. If you are what you call yourself, at least educate yourself. We have classical legal manuals that would have helped you here if you truly want to speak about the position of Islam. Ahkam Ahl al-Dhimmah by Ibn al-Qayyim or the deep analytical works of Imam Al-Qarafi in Al-Furuq is online. Everything about the rights of Non-Muslims in a Muslim sovereign state under the Islamic law is there. Al-Qarafi explicitly wrote that caring for non-Muslim citizens is a sacred covenant. This is the text of the law. He states that if an external enemy comes to harm them, Muslims are obligated to fight and die protecting them. This is a binding legal duty under Shariah, not an optional act of modern tolerance. If there is any restriction anywhere, or in few modern countries, they are a product of contemporary geopolitics, state control, and regime survival. They do not represent the classical Shariah blueprint. Therefore, trying to judge a 1400-year-old legal tradition by the actions of modern political regimes is an intellectual failure. The scholarly record is clear for anyone who genuinely cares about the truth instead of chasing social media engagement. I hope the Almighty guides you. Allah knows best.